Hey hey hey 👋 so yes you have guessed it, this post is going to be all about how to survive being single during the holidays. My best friend and I decided it would be a fun idea to do a Q&A and because I have been in a relationship with my wonderful boyfriend for the past two and a half years it would be a little more difficult for me to help out with this advice. However, my best friend is a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man hahaha but for real this girl is amazing and she deserves only the best but she also knows her worth and that’s why she’s got the best advice when it comes to this kind of stuff.
With that being said I knowwww that break ups happen, sometimes unexpectedly and they definitely can hit during this time of year 😔 which can definitely put a damper on that whole holly jolly spirit we all want to be apart of. & although it can really suck and feel like the end of the world, I can promise you THINGS WILL GET BETTER & EVERYTHING WILL HEAL WITH TIME but at least for the time being you can hopefully find some tips and tricks and even get a good laugh in to get you though the holidays with your single girl (or guy) swag 😉
Q: How long have you been single during the holidays?
A: Obviously since you are my best friend you know how long I have been single, but this is for your readers! My last serious relationship during Christmas was 2 years ago when I lived in Birmingham, Alabama. My only regret was not asking him for a sexy fireman calendar as a gift. Oh the positives of dating a hot fireman 😉
Q: What are some of your favorite solo activities to do during the holidays?
A: Volunteering is my absolute favorite! The holidays are the best time to give to others and being single allows you the flexibility to get up and go do it! Every Saturday morning I go to my favorite local coffee house, order a blueberry muffin, and write letters for care packages that are sent to our deployed troops and first responders.
I also love laying by the pool and reading self-help books! Sorry for any readers up north in the snow (us southerners have it easy always in the heat)! I highly recommend grabbing a fleece blanket and cuddling up next to a warm fire.
Q: What tips do you have for others who are single during this time to remain positive and joyful?
A: As of course Stephanie knows I am a very happy and positive person pretty much all the time, but even during the holidays I have my moments and living away from home those moments really take a toll on you!
1. AVOID the Hallmark Channel at all costs. OH who am I kidding I love Hallmark (you should see my Hallmark coffee mug)! However, sometimes it can become overwhelming watching the perfect scripted couple all the time. I would limit it to one night a week and finding alternative movies like It’s a Wonderful Life or White Christmas.
2. Temporarily log out of all social media accounts from Christmas Eve to New Years! I spent so much time scrolling through Instagram comparing myself to other women with their handsome boyfriend or husband questioning my worth, my beauty, and if I would ever be happy again. Give your mind and heart some rest, laugh with your loved ones, and remember your situation is not permanent!
3. Start a grateful journal! Stephanie is the best because she always reminds me when I am doubtful how blessed and fortunate I am. So I decided every night before bed I would write down the 5 things I was grateful for that day.
4. Write positive quotes from Pinterest on post-it notes and stick them on your bathroom mirror and say them back to you every morning. My favorite “Your past does not determine who you are. Your past prepares you for who you are to become.”
Hope you enjoyed this different kind of post 💕